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Sunday, December 29, 2013

Being Single and Battling Porn

Porn or XXX



The evil words that we hear all the time but no one ever talks about.

It's that secret sin that people rarely admit to participating in however, I read once there is a website that has somewhere around 100 Million views a day. YouTube has 1 Billion people visiting them a month. So imagine if you combined this website's daily view along with other notable porn site? The number would probably exceed YouTube in viewers. That just goes to show how many people view porn on a day to day basis. YouTube alone can be addicting clicking from video to video, now imagine someone who is addicted to porn watching it hour after hour, day after day. But what does this information have to do with us as Christians? The reason why porn is important to those that are single is because 75% of those who watch porn are people who are single. So chances are, to those that are single reading this blog, you might struggle with porn or lust in some sort of way. But no one in the church wants to talk about it. It's a sin in secret. It's a sin that we can tuck away and never talk about with other people. We can put on a good show to our friends and church but deep down inside we know that this exists, but how do we deal with it?

Similar to drugs people at first might start off looking at porn out of curiosity but over time we use it as an escape. There has even been studies done looking at the brain of a drug addict and the brain of a porn addict and it said it is practically the same. Had a bad day a work and need to relax? Watch Porn. Sick and tired of being single and rejected? Look at porn. Need to feel some type of love and intimacy? Watch porn. Have a fear of talking to girl and long to be in a situation where you feel in control? Look at porn. 

Porn over time becomes an escape and a way to deal with day to day problems. Instead of going to God and relying on Him to deal with our issues and anxieties, we instead many of times turn to what we think can deal with our issues. 

But here is the truth of the matter: Porn will not nor will it ever solve any of your problems

Think about porn versus real life:

In porn, nothing goes wrong. There are the most beautiful girls who achieve orgasm every time, that have no STD's, don't get pregnant and they give up sex so easily. All it takes is a knock on the door and a "I heard there is a problem with the plumbing" or a "I have an pizza order here for a Ms. Naughty." and BAM like the woman is at your command filling in your every desire.

It reminds me of the scene in "500 Days of Summer" where the movie shows a split screen showing the expectations vs. reality. The movies shows to events going on at the same time

He walks into the party with the idea of how things are gonna play. He walks and lays out his charm and then BAM make out session. But that's not what really happens and that is not how life plays out

In real life having sex has its consequences. It is nothing like in the porn or in our minds, that everything will come out fine and nothing is going to happen afterwards. How many times have you included contracting an STD or the girl getting pregnant in your fantasy? Never right? But guess what? The reality is, is that the chances of that happening is a lot higher that your expectation of sex really is. 

Don't get me wrong. I am not preaching from my high horse saying I'm perfect and you have to be as wholesome as me because like I mentioned in one of my other blog entries, I think of my lust like a werewolf. I can be fine one day than out of no where I have this, what I feel like, an uncontrollable urge to have sex with a girl I find attractive or I think back on all the opportunities that I declined when I could have had sex and imagine what would have happen if I had said yes. 

 Many men of God in the Bible had issues of sex and lust. Samson was the strongest man in the Bible but had a weakness towards women. King Solomon had a oomph number of wives and concubines and  King David had sex with a married woman and then tried to cover it by have the husband killed in battle. 

In Psalms 51, you see his repentance that he has for his sin:

Psalm 51

For the director of music. A psalm of David. When the prophet Nathan came to him after David had committed adultery with Bathsheba.

"Have mercy on me, O God, according to your unfailing love; according to your great compassion blot out my transgressions.Wash away all my iniquity and cleanse me from my sin. For I know my transgressions, and my sin is always before me. Against you, you only, have I sinned and done what is evil in your sight; so you are right in your verdict and justified when you judge. Surely I was sinful at birth, sinful from the time my mother conceived me. Yet you desired faithfulness even in the womb; you taught me wisdom in that secret place. Cleanse me with hyssop, and I will be clean;  wash me, and I will be whiter than snow.Let me hear joy and gladness; let the bones you have crushed rejoice. Hide your face from my sins  and blot out all my iniquity. Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. Do not cast me from your presence or take your Holy Spirit from me. Restore to me the joy of your salvation and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me. Then I will teach transgressors your ways, so that sinners will turn back to you. Deliver me from the guilt of bloodshed, O God, you who are God my Savior, and my tongue will sing of your righteousness. Open my lips, Lord, and my mouth will declare your praise. You do not delight in sacrifice, or I would bring it; you do not take pleasure in burnt offerings. My sacrifice, O God, is[b] a broken spirit; a broken and contrite heart you, God, will not despise. May it please you to prosper Zion, to build up the walls of Jerusalem. Then you will delight in the sacrifices of the righteous, in burnt offerings offered whole; then bulls will be offered on your altar."

This Psalm is beautiful because it shows how many times we feel after we have a lustful spell or we watch porn or any kind of sin for that matter. We are born sinners but Jesus Christ was born for us to die daily to our sin and for us to be reborn into being part of His new kingdom. 

There is so much that can be dealt with sex and pornography so I am going to save more for another time. But some last few words to think about is this. Everything that God says is for a reason. Even those outside the Christian community have spoken and talked about the dangers of constant pornography use. 

Also if you are a porn addict and a Christian and you need more information regarding help go to

www.XXXchurch.com

If you have any questions or prayer request email me at Single.Xavier23@gmail.com